Case Study. The same old saying about ocean and fishes
Your parents are concerned with your little brother Marcus. Once a brilliant student with excellent grades and a joyful social life, Marcus has lost interest for a couple of months in studying and spending time on books, he has started isolating more and more from his friends, and he seems finding shelter in his room, by himself.
Per se, these are not negative things, but what is concerning is the sudden change in the behavior.
You know your brother, he used to look up to you for mentorship and now there’s something very unnatural in the way he carries himself and eventually your “big brother” instinct steps in…
After a couple of pep-talks, Marcus finally spills the beans: the boy experienced his first love rejection, and he just doesn’t know how to cope with it.
He really cares about this girl Sarah. She’s in his math class, they used to spend a lot of time together and while he was starting to develop feelings for her, she always saw him as her cool and funny buddy to spend time with in the cafeteria chit chatting about whatever…
You feel very relieved knowing that all of this is just because of Sarah, but at the same time you feel sorry for him: Marcus is very mature for his age, but he’s still naive and fragile about many things; he has just discovered one of the many harsh truths of life, one for which he was not ready yet…
- How would you help Marcus overcome his negative feelings?
- How would you help Marcus restore trust in himself?
- How would you describe the situation to your parents?
Emotional intelligence, relational capabilities, empathy